Limiting Beliefs Are Keeping You Stuck
What are Limiting Beliefs?
A big part of my work as an Intuitive Life Coach is clearing limiting beliefs. These beliefs get stuck in our subconscious mind where we often aren’t even aware of them, yet they deeply affect your life. Some of the most common beliefs are “I’m not good enough” or “I don’t have enough money.” When working with limiting beliefs it is really important to remember that they are not true!
Limiting beliefs keep you stuck in fear and doubt, rather than accessing your true potential. They keep you trapped in a subconscious construct you are not even aware of. Obviously these beliefs will affect your life, but in order to understand why, we have to dig a bit deeper into the difference between the subconscious mind and conscious mind.
The conscious mind contains the thoughts that you are aware of. Our brains often go on and on and on with thoughts. These thoughts can range from what to cook for dinner, positive sentiments such as “what a great day I’m having,” and sometimes the really mean, judgemental things about ourselves like “I’m so stupid” or “ I don’t have the strength to do this.” While these thoughts may not always be positive, the bonus (if you can call it that) is that you are at least sometimes aware of these thoughts and have some ability to change them. For example, if you notice your thoughts go to a negative place like “I can’t handle this,” sometimes you catch yourself and counter it with a positive thought like “you can do whatever you set your mind to” or “this too shall pass.”
The subconscious mind underlies the conscious mind, and can’t be accessed the same way the conscious mind can. The subconscious mind runs without your awareness of it. For example, when you first are learning to drive a car, you consciously think about all of the actions needed such as turning on the turn signal, putting the car in park, and changing lanes. After you have been driving for awhile, these actions become routine and you no longer need to think about them. The subconscious mind is similar- it operates whether you are aware of it or not.
A mentor of mine once explained the difference by comparing the subconscious and conscious mind to a computer, which made a lot more sense to me (although my super computer literate friends and family will likely correct my rudimentary understanding of computers and perhaps the metaphor will come crashing down-I’m willing to give it a try anyway!). The conscious mind is like the programs your computer is running- Google Chrome, Microsoft Word, or perhaps a game. Each program you choose to run definitely changes your computer experience. Switching from a word processor to a game allows you two completely different experiences, and you have the choice over which program to run. This is similar to your conscious mind thoughts- you can choose to have negative thoughts about yourself and will likely experience a day that isn’t as great as it could be. Or if you change your thoughts to be more positive, even if you’re having a bad day your experience of it can be deeply different if you are using positive framing and self talk.
The subconscious mind relates to the actual hard drive and components of your computer. These components are necessary to run the programs you choose, but there are also parts that you cannot control. For example, if you don’t have enough RAM, then your experience running Chrome or a game will be laggy, slow, and frustrating. If your computer has the advanced components to run your programs quickly, then your entire computer experience will change, even if you are playing the same program.
Here’s where limiting beliefs come in- if you have the limiting belief that you are not good enough on a subconscious level, then your outward experience of life will mirror that limiting belief. And it’s really, really, really tough to change subconscious limiting beliefs using conscious thoughts. There’s a big push for using positive affirmations and mantras, and I fully support affirmations and mantras when they are used to combat thoughts occurring on the conscious mind level. However, it takes probably millions of repetitions of that mantra to affect a subconscious limiting belief, which is the underlying problem. And that difference can only be made if you are actually aware that the belief is in existence, which usually isn’t the case. Yikes. You can say to yourself, “I am rich” over and over and over again, but nothing will change in your reality unless you clear limiting beliefs about scarcity and money that exist on a subconscious level.
Clearing Limiting Beliefs
The process of clearing limiting beliefs has a drastic impact on your happiness, well being, and even physical health. You feel lighter, and have the ability to tackle new challenges, or even just look at life in a new way. It’s refreshing to get rid of patterns and beliefs that keep you stuck, unhappy, living in fear and doubt, and preventing you from reaching your goals in life! Usually clearing a limiting belief is pretty quick- sometimes I will give you background information about where that belief came from or how it has manifested in your life. Then I deliver messages that are based in truth and energetically integrate these messages of truth, which clears the belief so that you can function from a space of truth instead of limitation. Sometimes beliefs have layers to them, where one big limiting belief is held up or enmeshed in several others. Together we will unravel the knot, clearing one belief at a time until the mess clears up and creates a space of openness. And another benefit of clearing limiting beliefs- often they get “stuck” in your body, so clearing them can clear patterns of pain and tension from the body as well.